Party Girls Make The Best Connections
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“I know a guy” are words that every party girl, and every night life connoisseur, has mastered.
Want to cut the forty-five minute line to get into the club? I know a guy. Are you trying to rent out a boat for your birthday? I know a guy. Want to get guestlist for a popular DJ without having to pay a dime? Don’t worry, I know a guy.
Becoming engaged in a high-energy, fast-paced environment, with people from all different backgrounds, careers, and income levels, teaches you more about climbing the social ladder and finding connections than a LinkedIn message urging someone to buy a $150 course on how to dropship. Not to mention, LinkedIn is full of lonely, thirty-five-year-old men with an overly polished industry voice who try to “connect,” only to end their messages with, “...I’m also single.” At a VIP table, no one has to deal with that.
In fact, some of the most successful entrepreneurs and leaders barely check their own LinkedIn. They’re focused on the present moment and on building real relationships within their own communities face-to-face, which is what drives their success in the first place. They’re magnetic and charismatic, quick to read social situations, and equipped with the kind of emotional intelligence that helps them navigate any room with ease. These are the same qualities that define a true party girl. In that sense, those entrepreneurs are, by definition, party girls themselves.
Party girls often face the stereotype of being viewed as tacky or careless, quickly associated with substance abuse through drinking and drugs. Society, especially men, tends to judge young women that openly seek joy through nightlife instead of conforming to quieter, more domesticated standards. What critics fail to understand is that the right kind of party girl is chasing something deeper: the happiness and sense of community that comes alive on the dancefloor, free from negativity or emotional baggage.
Dance music helps unify people in a space built on shared values, encouraging the idea of P.L.U.R (Peace, Love, Unity and Respect), which promotes euphoria and breaks down emotional barriers. Research shows that house music falls between 120-130 beats per minute (BPM), a range that naturally mimics human physiological rhythm, triggering dopamine and encouraging natural movement.
So, what happens in those moments? Connection. On the dance floor, everyone is considered equal. Party girls, as natural extroverts, gravitate towards that connection and let it happen without force. I experienced this firsthand at a club, dancing to house music alongside strangers. After three songs, we stopped being strangers altogether, and I found myself in a conversation with a university professor about the pros and cons of artificial intelligence (AI) that lasted nearly three hours, a conversation I never would have had at a networking event. I went for the music, and left with an unexpected but meaningful connection.
The best connections are not the ones you chase. They find you when you stop performing and start actually being present. LinkedIn cannot replicate the reward that comes from treating strangers like friends, showing up consistently, and staying open to whatever life brings. It’s not about who you know on paper, but who you know in the room.
Strike Out,
Derin Alyanak
Boca Raton
Derin Alyanak is a content writer for Strike Magazine Boca. As a journalism student and self-diagnosed shopping addict, you can find her adding more items than she can afford to her Pinterest wishlist or curating another Spotify playlist. Reach her by email at @derinalyanak1@gmail.com or on Instagram @derinalyanakk
